Self Esteem And Attitude For Success
It?s All about Attitude and the Way We Think?
?We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world." ? Buddha
The Mind ? Body Connection
What would it mean if the thoughts we have when we start our day actually affect what happens without our having to do anything about it? What if all thoughts, conscious or not, influence the world? Would we start the day yelling at our children? Dashing out the door? Making ?to do? lists? How would it change our lives?
We are learning, from quantum physics, neurosciences and consciousness studies remarkable connections between mind and body. Thoughts, or the way you decide to think, has a dramatic effect on your body chemistry and on your physiology. For every thought you have, a physiological event occurs in unison with that thought. Your physiology determines your energy and action level. If your internal self-talk is negative, then the physiology that simultaneously occurs will be just as negative resulting in suppressed energy and action. You are mentally and physically programming yourself to go through life in a particular way. The same is true with positive thoughts. When you think positive, happy thoughts, there's actually a different chemistry that goes into your body than when you think depressing, negative, anguished thoughts.
Since you can only hold one thought at a time, if you think about what you want and how to get it, and then take the steps that come to your mind, eventually you won?t have time to think about all of your problems. Pretty soon it becomes habit. You develop a series of neuro-connections in your brain that make it easy and automatic for you to focus on what you want. Once it becomes a habit, your whole life starts to move faster and faster towards creating what you want.
You may recall the old saying, ?If you think you can or think you cannot, you are probably right?. The mind is so powerful that it will create what you believe is true or possible. In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument, it can deliver to you literally everything you want. But you have to believe that what you want is possible. You also have to believe that you are capable of making it happen...Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence or self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes-the abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to create your desired results.
Quantum Physics Experiment- Why Vizualization and Positive Thinking are Powerful
Nuero scientists have done experiments with the brain measuring what part of the brain becomes active when we are looking at an object versus visualizing the object. They?re conclusions are amazing. Dr. Joe Dispenza explains in the movie, What the Bleep Do We Know! an experiment where they had a person view an object as the scientists measured the electrical pulses in a certain area of the brain that were lit up. They then asked the person to close their eyes and visualize the object they had just look at. The same exact areas of the brain lit up with electrical pulses which gives a very startling finding. The brain can not tell the difference between what you are seeing and what you are visualizing. This finding explains why you can think about something in the past and get very emotional about it- almost like it is happening at the moment. It also explains why visualization and positive thinking are so powerful. Just think about it?
Self-Esteem- The Fundamental Power of Your Life
Why am I writing about Self-Esteem in this book? The more clients I see, the more I realize that the quality of your life comes from your self-esteem?and it determines the actions you will take in life. You see, how you feel about yourself extends to every area of your life- your relationships, your career, what you do, how you speak, even how you dress. Just think about it for a moment. Your self-esteem, or opinion of yourself, is basically what will eventually make or break you in life. Our beliefs about ourselves are the most telling factors in determining the level of success and happiness in life.
One of the most consistent messages in any self-development seminar or book is that the way you speak to yourself will eventually decide how well you go in life. Every negative thought is an inhibitor- it keeps you clogged up just like colesterol clogs up an artery. When you are filled with negativity, you are kept from attaining higher levels of happiness and fulfillment.
By controlling your self-talk, you decide how you want to view life. What happens in life happens and you can?t change that. I love the quote ?We can?t control the direction of the wind, but we can adjust our sails.? In other words, we can adjust our attitude and thoughts to look at life?s events and deal with them is in a positive and constructive manner. Now the good news: with every every single setback or difficulty or life ?test? you gain a lesson. So instead of becoming upset about what happened, you simply focus on the lesson, and the potential gain. And the very seeking of the lesson makes you more positive and focused person. One of Napoleon Hill?s, author of Think and Grow Rich, key principles is that in every problem or setback, there is the seed of an equal or greater benefit or advantage.
We all move in the direction of our current thoughts, so where you are is no accident. Words trigger pictures in your mind, which then trigger emotions, which in turn decide how you feel on a given day. Which words do you find yourself using often? This is a very important issue- how you talk about things really does have a HUGE impact on how you feel. If you keep affirming good opinions of yourself as part of your daily routine, you will start to see a shift in your attitude to a more positive and energized style. The opposite also applies, if you let your thoughts drift to negativity, which zaps your energy and self-confidence and motivation, than before you know it you will be down in the dumps and feeling depressed. Make a commitment now to start speaking with upbeat, energize words when having conversations with friends, family and co-workers.
You also have a responsibility to develop other people?s self-esteem and worth.
Being FREE to Live your Life the Way YOU Want it
So many people feel like they have to live up to their family?s expectations and those around them. Make a commitment to yourself to NOT live your life around the approval of other people. Respect your life so much so that you are strong enough NOT TO NEED the approval of other people. Dr. Wayne Dyer says ?You can't go around being what everyone else expects you to be, living your life through other people's rules, and also be happy and have inner peace.? The the ultimate decision in life is simply to make your decisions and live your life as you want to live it, without infringing on the rights of others. What others think about you and what they think about your decisions may challenge you. However, the final decisions are your own and you shape your life either by decisions you make or those you do not make.
About the Author: Michelle Rowley is a Master Practitioner of NLP, Timeline Therapy? and Hypnotherapy and is certified by their respective American Boards. As a Life Coach, she specializes in personal development and performance improvement. She is also the author of Personal Growth Strategies http://www.personal-growth-strategies.com