What End Result Do You Want?
Ever noticed that when you have swags of time to complete a task then it takes much more time to complete it than is necessary?
I'm aware of a similar phenomenon with money. When I have my mortgage or health insurance debited from an account before funds are paid through to me, it's amazing how that amount is not missed and I easily live within the amount that I receive. Yet when provided my total funds available first, how hard it is to pool the amount needed to pay that mortgage and insurance?
The thoughts in my mind and the gift that is my life, are not unlike these two scenarios. When I leave such vacuums in my mind and my life, they will be filled for me. Moment by moment and usually with other people's agendas. My points of focus are then not my own. The distractions that can fill the voids are endless.
The first thing that I work on with clients is "What end result do you want??
This one question can be such a struggle. In fact, some people never begin working with me because they cannot answer that question - not recognising that a coach will first work with you to crystallise your vision. Often the initial responses given are, what we think that others think that we should want for ourselves. Sometimes the answer is even what ?we think' that we think we want!
If I can give no authentic response to that question then I must be living from someone else's agenda. It cannot be any other way. My thoughts and activities cannot have been allocated a specific focus if I find myself aimlessly bobbing on the waves.
My mind operates like a filter and also as radar. With all the stimulus coming at me then what is my brain filtering out, and on what is my mind focused?
If I feel that I have fewer options in life and am experiencing overwhelm then I have not got clear with what I really want and my life will be an expression of survival or chaos. When there's no mental image... expect total confusion!
I am much more inspired when firmly grounding my goals in what I want and where I ultimately want to go rather than basing my goals on what I have or what I have done.
The other thing to recognise here, is that there is no right or wrong answer to the question "What end result do you want?". There is also not always a single answer nor multiple answers. That is completely personal.
How do you come about the answers for you? There are a miriad of ways to get access to what touches your heart and what would fulfil your life. It's one of the reasons that I load this e-zine up with so many "triggers" for you.
Working one to one with a coach over a period allows for setting aside time for focused conversation; exploring many avenues and then gradually exposing the desired outcomes that "fit like a glove" for you.
This quote may be a good place to begin your enquiry:
"View life as a series of movie frames, the ending and meaning may not be apparent until the very end of the movie, and yet, each of the hundreds of individual frames has meaning within the context of the whole movie. View your life from your funeral, looking back at your life experiences, what have you accomplished? What would you have wanted to accomplish but didn't? What were the happy moments? What were the sad? What would you do again, and what you wouldn't?" ~Victor Frankl~
About the Author: ©2005 Thea Westra is an international life coach who resides in Perth, Australia. She is editor and publisher of a free, monthly newsletter which you can receive by going to her website http://www.forwardsteps.com.au She also publishes a blog called Triggers http://forwardsteps.blogspot.com